Let’s look at a couple of relationship snapshots. Couple 1 is walking in the park, holding hands, talking about something going on in their lives as the scenery forms a backdrop for them to be together. Couple 2 is at home. One partner is sitting in a chair reading a book, the other is sitting…
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When Sadists Go Wild – Berserking and a Different Kind of Top Frenzy
Berserk: Injuriously, maniacally, or furiously violent or out of control Wiktionary Top frenzy (or Dom frenzy) usually describes that initial time of discovery of BDSM encounters, where the excitement of newly discovered pleasures leads to an “anywhere, anytime, anyone” mania. If you’re on any cruising site you’ll find plenty of it going around, along with…
No Sex Please, Just The Kink
If you’re on online cruising and dating sites, like Collarspace, Tinder and Recon, you’d be forgiven for thinking that BDSM is just the kinky spice that’s sprinkled on top of sex. Whether you’re Top or bottom, if you stray from the prescribed script about being a nympho/stud with a “do anything” attitude, you can find…
The History (and Controversial Psychology) of Sadomasochism
The two words incorporated into this compound, “sadism” and “masochism,” were originally derived from the names of two authors. The term “Sadism” is derived from the name of Marquis de Sade. Not only did he practice sexual sadism, he also wrote novels about these practices (best known is Justine ). The term “Masochism” was named…
Subspace versus Bottomspace
Subspace is actually a mashup of two shortened words: sub – short for submissive, which can be generally defined as “person who consensually gives up control either all the time or for a specified period” space – short for headspace, slang for mental state The Merriam-Webster Dictionary might offer a better definition of submissive as…
Masochism – Can It Be Cured?
CAN MASOCHISM BE CURED? This question carries a subtle pre-conceived notion of masochism – that masochism is a sickness or disease of some sort that needs to be cured. It’s the type of question that is raised with any socially deviant act, along the lines of “can homosexuality be cured” (still being debated, even in…
A Sadist’s Philosophy of Pain
Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Kahlil Gibran Pain is an intense physical sensation. It has evolved as a warning – the body’s way of telling you that you are in danger or something is wrong. That burns, this is broken, that is cut: you’d better do something about…