If you ask someone to identify themselves by role, there are all kinds of hybrid combinations you might hear in reply. One that’s sure to cause confusion is the Alpha sub, because there are several different ways to use the term, and at least one is contentious in the community. SOCIAL HIERARCHY The term “Alpha…
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Calling Yourself an Alpha Dom Just Makes You Look Bad
You might think you are the most Domly Dom to ever have Dommed, but here’s a news flash: you’re not. Sorry, but with so many “Alphas” inhabiting the kink scene, not everyone can sit at the top of the BDSM food chain. There are certainly a few valid ways to use the term “Alpha”. It’s…
Is it OK for Me to Call Myself “Master”?
So, you’ve got this title, “Master”. What are the origins? How did it come to be part of the BDSM language? “Master” might refer to: someone with a high level of skill in something (a Master Swordsman or Master Electrician, for example). To be recognised as this type of Master by your community you may…
submissive versus slave in BDSM
In BDSM lingo, we often confuse different terminology due to a lack of resources. Thanks to Fifty Shades of Grey and all the fantasy we’re exposed to (whether that’s fiction, porn or pickup sites), terms like slave and submissive (or Dominant and Master) can be thrown around interchangeably. But sometimes words are supposed to have…
The Sensual submissive in BDSM Relationships
The journey of being a sub or slave to a Master is more than just passive obedience. You’ll hear lots of advice, like “always be obedient” and “never say no”, but it takes something more to build the foundations of a 24/7 lifestyle relationship that will last. Like anything, BDSM relationships burn out. The thrill…
Is Your Potential slave a Fraud?
by ijm “Wanted – strict Master to use & abuse this bootlicking, pain-craving pigslut as Your 24/7 slave. No limits or safe words. Make me Your pierced and tattooed boy.” Over the past few years i’ve run across many different advertisements posted by “eager to please” slaves on the Internet only to find that many…