“Being a slave is the hottest thing I have ever (ever!) experienced. And it definitely FEELS totally right to me.” “But, being a slave sometimes counters my inner beliefs…” The path down the transgressive route of Domination/submission or Master/slave isn’t a smooth rainbow ride. Many of us underwent quite immense amounts of self-doubt and reflection…
Tag: decision making
Don’t Take My Word For It
I’ve always had a love/hate relationship with a site called TripAdvisor. If you don’t travel much or you haven’t come across it before, it’s the Lonely Planet of the digital age, except they don’t editorialise… it’s all crowdsourced. I had such a bad experience at a restaurant in Bangkok a while back that I felt…
Hey You, Get Off Of My Slide
I’ve been thinking lately about the idea of choices as a kind of pyramid that you move around. It’s a bit nascent, but I’ll try my best to explain. I MIGHT NOT HAVE RIPPLING ABS, BUT CHECK OUT MY DECISIONS We’ve all heard of the slippery slope, but how many of us consider the perils…
Doms: How Controlling Do You Need to Be?
Power exchange in Dominance/submission is characterised by one person wanting to give up some degree of control, and another wanting to take that control on. On the surface it’s not a difficult concept, but like all things that involve degrees, there are infinite points of balance and it is only successful when both people feel…
Decisions in Your D/s Relationship – Head vs Heart
Decisions, decisions. Every day we make thousands of them, from the small stuff like “coffee or tea?” to the big stuff like career, finance, health and relationships. There’s a fantasy that some subs and slaves who are just starting out have, that they will meet a wise, intelligent and caring Dom who will make all…
Bipolar and Active Manic States – Play or Not Play?
Bipolar Disorder is characterised by swings between elevated mood (mania) and depression. On the healthier end of mania, the individual can be energetic and highly productive, but in an unhealthy state it can include erratic and impulsive behaviour, poor decision making and insomnia. As its most severe level it can include psychosis (distorted beliefs about…