No-one wakes up one morning and says “check it out, I’m into kink now”. We come to all things through a process. A desire takes root, and we prod at it and probe it to see whether it will stick or is just a passing fancy, and how important it is to us. Most of…
Tag: coming out
Coming Out as Kinky – Open or Closeted in Public?
It’s said that kinky gay guys have two coming outs. First there’s coming out as gay, then, for some of us, there’s coming out as non-vanilla. Of course, neither of those processes are compulsory, that’s our choice. I’m oversimplifying, of course. I’m a gay, leather-identifying sadistic Dom in a polyamorous relationship. Close friends who’ve known…
BDSM and Transgression
The human mind is so complicated and yet beautiful. Good is never purely good, it is always mixed with a bit of a bad, and pleasure, identity and sexuality are not singular but wired in a million different directions. It’s part of what makes us human. For some people, the appeal BDSM sexuality and eroticism…