BDSM has been officially mass-ified. Fifty Shades of Grey has spawned a bookshelf full of copies for under the sheets reading. You can probably find them in your local library. The BDSM community has been dragged into this commodification of the culture. What used to be whispered about is now discussed openly around the dining…
New UK porn censorship legislation means BDSM is OK in the bedroom but not on the screen
It seems in the UK that sex is best performed under the covers, in missionary position, with your socks on. Or at least that’s what The Audiovisual Media Services Regulations 2014, which came into force on December 1st, would like. New regulations now apply to producers of pornography, including Video on Demand, specifying that a…
Healthy Alternatives to Self-Harm and Self-Injury
I picked these images up randomly from Tumblr, so I apologise for not crediting them properly. There are some great suggestions for alternatives to self-harm in them and I wanted to share. FURTHER READING • Cornell University – The Cornell Research Program on Self-Injury and Recovery • Self-Injury.net – FAQ • A Kind Dom –…
Quiz – What’s Your BDSM Role?
Are you a Master, Dom/me or Top? A slave, sub, bottom or pet? Here’s a quick 24 question quiz that gives you a percentage rating for roles. It’s just fun, but maybe it’ll get you questioning your self-image. UPDATE APRIL 2020: Links come and go, and this quiz was deleted on the host site. It…
A Field Guide To “Creepy Dom”
by Asher Bauer Introduction This is a public service announcement for the BDSM and kink community. It is especially directed at anyone relatively new, and extra especially at anyone who ever bottoms. For the benefit of everyone’s mental health and safety, I would like to discuss the widespread phenomenon known as Creepy Dom. Creepy Dom…
Dominants – Worshipping the Feet of Clay
i was more than grateful to read The Imperfect Dominant’s Charter, written by _cleric_. It is difficult for a Dominant/Master to come down from His broad arm chair and sit on the floor, facing thousands of subs and say, you know what? I am actually just like you, I have flaws and I have my…
The Imperfect Dominants’ Charter
All types of media, from fashion to porn and everything in between, have filled our heads with what perfection looks like. It’s a “perceived perfection” but stifling none the less. Holding us back from trying new things for fear of looking foolish. Keeping us isolated for fear of being judged. Controlling far more of our…
The Loneliness of the Long Distance Relationship submissive
i grew up in a small town and i started my BDSM journey through the Internet. i was a kid with a submissive nature that i didn’t know how to deal with, and the internet opened up a doorway for me to explore my sexuality as a slave/sub. After a few months of navigating through…
Focus, Forgetfulness and the ADHD/ADD submissive
The topic of ADHD is under much debate, To what extent is distraction a mental illness? To what extent is the advancement of technology making everyone’s brain constantly jumpy? It’s not likely to be resolved any time soon, and in the meantime psychiatrists are prescribing “focus drugs” to kids. i myself have constant doubt about…
The Periodic Table of Kink
Sorry kink explorers, but fluffy handcuffs are considered vanilla. If you have a thing for tentacles, figging, snowballing, rusty trombone, cupping or queening then you’re definitely considered kinky though, and this great periodic table will show you some associated kinks. My favourite bit is the common paraphilias section in white, but it’s all interesting and…