In a good world we wouldn’t have geographical separation to cope with, but it is what it is and sometimes we have to incorporate distance as an element in what we do. I’m going to share the system of long-distance chastity that we use. I’m sure it’s not the only way, but it works for…
Sharing Freely
by Eve Rickert I want nothing from you for which the giving doesn’t make you happy. I want you to be no one but yourself for me. I want you in my life, but only if my presence in yours enriches it in some way. When you are with me, I assume you are there…
An Online Dominant’s Illustrative Primer
I hope that this article will prove helpful to (possibly young and inexperienced) Dominants taking their first steps into exploring online domination. I will attempt to offer some guidance on basic chat etiquette and how, once you find some kind of online community, to talk to submissives, set up and interact with play scenes, and…
Choosing the Right Male Chastity Device
If you’re eyeing chastity devices, whether online or in stores, you’ll notice that they’re not cheap items. They don’t let you try them on in stores for hygiene purposes, and online you’re making judgements from images and words, so you’re faced with the dilemma of looking at devices and trying to imagine how they will…
BDSM Impact Play Safe Zones
Show me a BDSM toybox without some kind of impact toy and I’ll show you a Dom that is probably thinking of doing some online shopping. But, I’ve seen some pictures on Tumblr recently that I hope are faked, because the bodies are marked up in areas they really shouldn’t be marked up in. I…
A Sadist’s Philosophy of Pain
Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Kahlil Gibran Pain is an intense physical sensation. It has evolved as a warning – the body’s way of telling you that you are in danger or something is wrong. That burns, this is broken, that is cut: you’d better do something about…
Assume the Position
Position training is pretty much exactly what it sounds like. A set of body positions that are taught, corrected and memorised. It fits with some people’s style and it’s a turn-on, for others it’s as interesting as washing the dishes. You’ll know if it’s for you or not. I’ve heard it talked about in terms…
Why people say “You’re poly? That’s so hot!” and not “You’re poly? That’s so romantic.”
I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. Here’s the way any relationship might start. You meet someone, get to know them, fall in love and feel that…
BDSM Slavery Contracts, Fetish Questionnaires and Measurement Charts
If you caste your eyes below to the footer, you’ll see we’ve added some free downloadable documents you might find useful. Disclaimer – we take no responsibility for the contents (especially the consensual s/M contracts). We didn’t write any of these, they’re old documents of unknown origin. Most are in .doc format so you can…
Chastity – Spirituality, Devotion and Power Exchange
WHAT IS CHASTITY? It is simply a form of orgasm denial, with or without a chastity device, and with or without power exchange. Some may use a chastity device to enforce the process of orgasm denial, some may explore chastity simply by following orders to not touch the genitalia, or masturbate. As always, it’s a…