There are many different types and levels of masochism, and so often you’ll hear a conversation in the BDSM community where the two people are struggling to communicate because they are using the word in two different ways. As a term, diverse people with diverse intentions fall into the grouping. If you do a quick…
Fearplay – How Scary Is The Edge?
Let me tell you about scared. Your heart is beating so hard I can feel it through your hands. There’s so much blood and oxygen pumping through your brain it’s like rocket fuel. Right now you can run faster and fight harder and jump higher than ever in your life, and you’re so alert it’s…
What Is Social Anxiety?
WHAT IS SOCIAL ANXIETY? Wikipedia defines it like this: Social anxiety is a discomfort or a fear when a person is in a social interaction that involves a concern of being judged or evaluated by others. It is typically characterised by an intense fear of what others are thinking about them (specifically fear of embarrassment,…
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What Type of BDSM Top or Bottom Are You?
No matter how much some of us might protest that we “don’t want to be labeled or put in a box”, the roles we occupy in BDSM form an essential part of our negotiation. It is not simply about playing a part in a fantasy, though that can be an important element in the turn-on….
Answering Some Questions about Internal Enslavement
i identity as someone who desires Internal Enslavement. It’s not what my current relationship is, but it is something that i have dreamt about since young. Following up on my previous post explaining what Internal Enslavement is, I received some questions about it and so here are my personal responses. HOW DOES INTERNAL ENSLAVEMENT DIFFER…
What is Internal Enslavement?
Two terms that nearly always cause confusion in conversation are “mental BDSM” and “internal enslavement”. They sound like they might be similar concepts, but “mental BDSM” usually refers to psychological (rather than physical) control, while “internal enslavement” refers to what you’d imagine the dictionary definition of “slave” is. WHAT IS INTERNAL ENSLAVEMENT? Internal Enslavement is…
Is Censoring Pornography a Form of Annihilation?
The topic of pornography is divisive. But it’s also not clearly black and white. i’d like to share a few thoughts on “pornography”, coming from the perspective of someone who lives in the ultra-conservative Asian country of Malaysia. In Malaysia, there is no sex education, not even simple education on the importance of using condoms…
Chastity – Sexy Games for Solo Players
Chastity can be serious business… except when it’s not. If you think denying yourself orgasm could be fun, then you’re not alone. Lots of guys are into chastity, and there are lots of ways to have fun with it. Let’s get the note of caution out of the way first. If you’ve got a brand…
Quiz – Map Your Kinks
If you follow our blog you’ll notice we like quizzes. Life is stressful enough, with all those boots to lick clean and canes to shine, so forgive us if we want a little idle distraction in our lives. Isn’t that why the internet was invented? Do you know how kinky you really are? I mean…