We have free will if we have the autonomous power to make decisions about our own direction in life and act on them. Whether we really have free will or not has been debated since the great philosophers, and is still debated now. ABOUT FREE WILL Social dynamics are complex, and we are the product…
Quiz – What is Your Safeword?
Traffic lights are so pedestrian. your safeword can be just as individual as you are, and we have just the random generator for you. Try this fun picture match to see what your safeword could be. Take the quiz – What Should Your Safeword Be? OTHER FUN BDSM QUIZZES • Understand the Psychology of Your…
Are BDSM slaves Individuals, or Just Robots to Serve?
There is a general concept of BDSM slaves as someone who gives up their pride and identity, and focuses on their Master. The purpose of the slave, in this concept, is to serve. This is the type of slave referred to in the principles of Internal Enslavement. But actually, in the BDSM community, there is…
Negotiating Away the Stupidity
by y.t. One of the mental characteristics in a BDSM relationship i thought i should touch on is the subject of stupidity. Of course, “stupidity” is weighty, in vocations, and i was reluctant to jump into the fray without a life preserver. But since we’re on the subject, i want to put in my “two…
The Relationship Between BDSM and Ancient Tantra
By Dr. Michael Dean Goodman (Maheshvara) This is a fascinating topic – one that I’ve spent years exploring. I had the great good fortune to spend years living with, and to be trained and initiated by, a renowned Indian yogic/tantric master – who sent me out to share what I’d gained. I teach tantra workshops…
Safewords Aren’t About Trust or Love
We’ve talked about SSC vs RACK and Consensual Non-Consent (CNC), but what is the actual function of a safeword in BDSM practices and how important is it that you have one? If we frame a discussion in the terms of SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual), the safeword gives the ultimate power in a scene to…
Quiz – What Kind of Sexual Deviant Are You?
We like to break from the serious stuff for a quiz now and again, but it’s been a while since we posted one. Here’s one you might like, and the cool thing is that it gives you a URL to use in your profiles so that others can see your results. There are 8 pages…
Slaves in Transition – Online to Offline (and back again) in Long Distance Relationships
Change happens all the time in life, and so does transition in our mental state. Quite often, transitions happen in the back of our mind without us even being aware. Anything, from large (a change of living environment) to small (altering an everyday routine), requires us to make adjustments, and of course some are easy…
What is Informed Consent?
Consent is not as straightforward as it first seems. It’s not black and white. At it’s clearest and simplest level, it is communicated permission. It is a declaration of allowance within agreed boundaries. I love this YouTube video explanation of what consent is (and isn’t): YouTube: CampusClarity – What is Consent? But, consent it is…
Clothespins – Simple and Effective BDSM Torture Toys
by Fledermaus (aka Tony DeBlase) Sometimes it is the simplest BDSM torture toys that can be the most effective. The Sandmutopia Supply Company “research and development lab” is filled with a great variety of equipment, including literally hundreds of different kinds of clamps. But high among my list of favorites are still plain old ordinary…