You’ll often hear people talking with derision about “no limits slaves”. How can they possibly exist? Everyone has limits. Yet, i believe they can and do exist. We read so many love stories where one character is willing to die for the other. It exists in fiction because it is part of our human psyche….
Exploring BDSM with Mental Health Issues
The term “mental illness” is loaded with negative connotations, often debatable and very tricky to define. What is “mentally ill” and what is “having a different mentality that sits outside the norm”? i’ve used “mental health issues” in the title of this article, but it doesn’t have to be “issues” in a negative sense. Being…
The Sacredness of BDSM
Sacred places are awe-inspiring; they are serene environments that encourage contemplation and meditation; and they create an attitude of respect Daniel Levi and Sara Kocher In BDSM, we experience sacred moments not between the individual and God, but between individuals. It’s nothing abstract or intangible. It’s the foot of your Master and the forehead of…
Are All Sadists Safe, Sane and Consensual?
The short answer to whether all Sadists are safe, sane and consensual is… no. A Sadist enjoys inflicting physical or emotional pain or discomfort. His partner being a masochist may affect his pleasure, or it may not. There is actually a wide spectrum of Sadists, from those who are skilled pain inflictors but can take…
Erotic Humiliation and Degradation
Technically speaking, erotic humiliation and erotic degradation are not quite the same thing, though they are often spoken about interchangably or lumped together as “humilation and degradation”. Humiliation is a mental state, and what humiliates one person may not humiliate another. For example, telling a man he has a small penis may be humiliating, if…
Self Bondage – Rope Hog Tie
We’ve created a PDF with step-by-step instructions for two different variations of a self bondage rope hog tie. It’s in our downloads in the sidebar, or download it here. Hog ties are more risky than our previous step-by-step rope harness tutorial, so please read Some Words Before You Start. It’s important. Believe me, you don’t…
No Sex Please, Just The Kink
If you’re on online cruising and dating sites, like Collarspace, Tinder and Recon, you’d be forgiven for thinking that BDSM is just the kinky spice that’s sprinkled on top of sex. Whether you’re Top or bottom, if you stray from the prescribed script about being a nympho/stud with a “do anything” attitude, you can find…
BDSM and the Pursuit of Happiness
Even though a recent Guardian article, Never tried BDSM? Go on, it’s good for you, points to studies that suggest that those of us expressing ourselves sexually may be happier than the average, there are a lot of people who are “under happy”. I’m using the term “under happy”, rather than “unhappy”, because I think…
Self Bondage – Quick Rope Hand Bind for Harness
We’ve created a PDF with a quick finishing touch to our self bondage Full Body Rope Harness to lock your wrists in place behind your back. It’s in our downloads in the sidebar, or download the step-by-step instructions here. You’ll need one rope, about 2 meters (6.5′) long. You’ll be able to get in and…
What is Sensual Domination?
There are a lot of BDSM sub-communities that use the Domly Dom Dom as their archetype. Internal Enslavement, the B.E.S.T Training group, and many Master and Slave groups on FetLife, are examples. The Dom is a controller, an authority figure and a leather-clad alpha. There’s nothing wrong with that. Those Doms certainly exist in abundance….