We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. anal training: Inserting progressively larger objects (usually butt plugs or dildos) in order to stretch the anal sphincter, in preparation for such activities…
Holding a Cuckold Affirmation Ceremony
By cuck Steve Couples already actively enjoying a cuckold related “lifestyle” may decide to make it more formal and official amongst their friends with a Cuckold Affirmation. The event should be held as a celebration of the Wife’s sexual freedom and the husband’s submission and devotion to his Wife’s pleasure. It should not be used…
Safe Call Apps to Watch Your Back
If you’re meeting (or are responsible for someone else who is meeting) someone for the first time or playing somewhere new, then safe calls are a tool for helping to keep meetings safe. Since forever, we’ve done it by arranging a voice-to-voice call and a secret duress/distress code with a friend, for a certain time…
The Three Types of Commitment
In BDSM relationships, we often speak of commitment. What we usually mean by that is that we will do things, in a sustained manner, to benefit the relationship. It is often a commitment to a person (or “people” if you’re poly), but it could also be to a larger collective entity, such as a household…
I Wanna Push Your Limits
Should I put my red flag away now? You will hear “I wanna push your limits” from some Dom at some stage, so I think it’s worthwhile talking about what that really means. LET’S TALK ABOUT CONSENT Consent flows both ways and both parties have to retain both responsibility and consent. A bottom can’t say…
Seeing Ourselves in the Mirror of subspace and Topspace
We try our best to understand subspace and topspace, but what are these spaces that we are talking about? Many people talk about them in terms of neurochemicals. The pain induced during a scene triggers the sympathetic nervous system, resulting in releasing epinephrine from adrenal glands, and the flushing of endorphins into the blood system….
Illustrated Guide – Types of Collars
We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery, one of the great sites that Tumblr killed in its purge. This is the first in a series of illustrated guides. If you’d like to follow them, then later ones will be here. Collar: Any symbol used to represent that a submissive or slave is…
Turning Pain Into Pleasure
Pain is a huge part of BDSM. We seem to talk about it all the time. But, language being the blunt instrument that it is, do we really understand each other when we say things like “hit me” or “i love pain”? For some people, pain directly equates to “abuse” or “self harm”, and there…
The Complex Relationship Between BDSM and Mental Illness
The relationship between BDSM and mental health is complex, and can be confusing. Take, for example, depression. For those in the BDSM community who suffer from depression, is there any relationship? And if there is, was there an attraction to BDSM because of (diagnosed or undiagnosed) depression? Does the BDSM make it better or worse?…
Common Sense is Not So Common (don’t be a dick!)
by MutualRespect Voltaire was a talented French writer, playwright, philosopher and historian from the 17th century. He was an outspoken critic of the French aristocracy, religious dogma and corrupt institutions. He was banished from France after a fall out with a minor aristocrat and was exiled to the United Kingdom for three years during the…