by Waepen Ess Subspace is experienced differently by different people and for different reasons. Headspace is one variable in the equation and a very significant part of the experience of subspace. That is the state of mind of the person experiencing subspace. THE MIND Headspace is about the belief, focus, intensity, reaction to the environment…
Anal Fisting – Learning the Basics
by Larry R. Shockey This is the first in a comprehensive 4-part guide to anal fisting by Larry Shockey, organizer of Hell Hole San Francisco and Fist Fest. • Part 2 – Preparing for Play (Advice for Fisting Tops and bottoms) • Part 3 – The Mind-Body Connection (Headspace Before, During and After the Scene)…
Illustrated Guide – Genital Piercing
This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. FURTHER READING • Piercing Bible – Female Genital Piercing • Piercing Bible – Male Genital Piercing • Piercing Heart – Different Piercing Types • Beyond The Pain – Female Genital Piercing • Beyond The Pain – Male Genital Piercing
Quiz – Understand the Psychology of Your Sexuality
The BSPI Beiter Sexuality Preference Indicator gives you a unique insight into your own preferences. Answer a series of questions to understand: • What kind of partner orientation (Dominant, submissive etc) are you? • How are you turned on? • What gives you pleasure? • What kind of sexual encounters will you enjoy most? •…
Ditch the Ego and Learn Some BDSM Skills
by Bob Buckley In gay male BDSM, the possession of an ego on the part of the topman (or bottom) is not a bad thing in itself – depending on just what type of ego it is. Anyone who has discussed BDSM with me, at any length, almost certainly will have heard me say that…
Keeping It Clean – Hygiene and Safety for Toys and Sharps
By Fledermaus Each person must understand that these are relative degrees of cleanliness and safety as they apply to various kinds of contaminants. As with all BDSM play, both Top and bottom must understand the levels of risk and accept that risk for the activities in which they engage. Sterile Something that is sterile is…
The Sensuality of Smell
by bruce “As i moved my face to His pits, i drank in the aroma of a million pores of sweat, basking in the fragrance of my Master. Perhaps it reminded me of an absolute security years ago when i held in my father’s arms, the masculinity of him permeating my nostrils. Perhaps it was…
Skipping and Dancing into the Little Mind of DDlg/b
There is one thing i don’t understand. Why are adults so boring? My aunt is standing in the corner, reading that big paper with so many words, like an army of marching across the paper. She does that every day; in the morning and the afternoon. my cousin is even more boring. She stands beside…
Illustrated Guide – Impact Sting Levels
We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. impact play: Striking with various objects, including the hand (spanking), riding crops, floggers and whips and canes(oh, my!) – FetLife BDSM Glossary We…
Correctional Training: Is Your Slave a Piece of Dirt?
by Morgan There are many ways to “train” a slave—to enjoy man-to-man power and sexual relationships. The most publicised and most visible modus operandi is that of the all-powerful and all-knowing Master who is able to direct, dominate and control the entire world occupied by the slave, who in turn fantasises himself a piece of…