We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. Some Doms use a standard set of hand signals in their training, but they vary from Dom to Dom and House to House….
Consent and BDSM: The State of the Law in the US
BDSM activity, even where clearly consensual, can be and frequently is prosecuted under state criminal laws dealing with assault, aggravated assault, sexual assault or sexual abuse. Such criminal prosecution can arise in various circumstances, including: • The BDSM “scene” turns out to be more intense or painful or harmful than the submissive participant anticipated, and…
Anal Fisting – Keeping it Safe, Clean and Disease-free
by Larry R. Shockey This is part 4 of a 4-part guide to anal fisting by Larry Shockey, organizer of Hell Hole San Francisco and Fist Fest. • Part 1 – Learning the Basics • Part 2 – Preparing for Play (Advice for Fisting Tops and bottoms) • Part 3 – The Mind-Body Connection (Headspace…
Considering a Poly Relationship? Ask Yourself These Questions First
We’ve extracted this self-evaluation exercise from the book Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino. It’s a fantastic book, available on Amazon, and a must-read if you’re considering non-monogamy (in any of its many forms). Scroll to the end of the questions for a lot more information about the…
A Letter to a Younger Me – and Any Other Young Doms
by SimonShroud I have been in the D/s lifestyle for coming up on a decade. So much has changed in me during that time. I wish that I could go back ten years and sit down with my younger self and have a little chat about what it means to be a Dominant. I did…
Anal Fisting – The Body-Mind Connection
by Larry R. Shockey This is part 3 of a 4-part guide to anal fisting by Larry Shockey, organizer of Hell Hole San Francisco and Fist Fest. • Part 1 – Learning the Basics • Part 2 – Preparing for Play (Advice for Fisting Tops and bottoms) • Part 4 – Keeping It Safe, Clean…
Illustrated Guide – Gags
We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. gag: Any device or object designed to be placed in the mouth, most commonly to prevent a person from speaking or making loud…
A Personal Journey Into Subspace
by nightrunner378 “Subspace” and how we view it is subjective. I know what it feels like to me. And I do not care what others think of that. Anyone who wants to, can go ahead and argue that I am not in “true or real” subspace. But how silly is that? Does a hot dog…
Anal Fisting – Preparing for Play
by Larry R. Shockey This is part 2 in a 4-part guide to anal fisting by Larry Shockey, organizer of Hell Hole San Francisco and Fist Fest. • Part 1 – Learning the Basics • Part 3 – The Mind-Body Connection (Headspace Before, During and After the Scene) • Part 4 – Keeping It Safe,…
Which Shade of BDSM Will Set You Free?
by Becca (shadows-dance) I think every person’s kink is unique. Now let me explain myself. 🙂 I think of “kink” as a giant box of Crayolas. We all get one the second we decide that “vanilla” isn’t what we want. Sure, there’s a white crayon in the box, but it’s not our favorite. BDSM encompasses…