It’s a commonly held opinion that a lot of people become involved in BDSM or an M/s or D/s lifestyle because they are mentally unstable, broken or are working through childhood trauma. Not just by people outside the community who “don’t know any better”, but by people who are actually involved in BDSM, M/s and…
2 Ways to Deal with PTSD and Panic Attacks
This is part 1 of a 3 part article on PTSD and Panic Attacks. Part 2: When the submissive or slave has PTSD or Panic Attacks Part 3: When the Dominant or Master has PTSD or Panic Attacks We talked about the symptoms of PTSD in a previous article and Heather Daisy talks about how…
Two Easy Mummification Techniques
by Gil Kessler Basic mummification is fun, easy and inexpensive. It places the bottom in a situation of powerlessness and sensory deprivation which allows him to float off, forget his problems, and offer his complete trust to the Top. The Top derives enjoyment and satisfaction from his sense of total control, from the pleasure he…
The Origins of Shibari Japanese Rope Bondage – For Pain and Pleasure
By Morgan IS IT HOJOJUTSU, SHIBARI OR KINBAKU? The most widely used term for Japanese rope bondage now is “shibari”, which is actually a (correct) alternative pronounciation of the Japanese written characters for Hojojutsu. The same Japanese character can be read in different ways, and Shibari and Hojojutsu (捕縄術) both look the same when written….
Illustrated Guide – Pet Play Tailplugs
We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. animal play: (see pet play, ponygirl , ponyboy, pup-play) The sub behaves and/or dresses like an animal. The principal theme of animal role…
Can Role-Play Add to the Pleasure That Pain Brings?
What’s in your sadomasochist (S/m) repertoire? If you think of role-play as “I’m the stern headmaster and you’re the naughty student” then some people enjoy that kind of play and some people don’t find much in it. In this context we’re talking about role-play as making up fictional characters or putting ourselves as real characters…
Brats, SAMs and Break-mes
Brats are possibly something of a misunderstood species. They get a bad rap by many in the community who immediately associate the role with “petulant child”. But is that really what a brat is? We’d call a child a brat if they’re misbehaving, but most submissives who identify as brats see it as a role…
Decisions in Your D/s Relationship – Head vs Heart
Decisions, decisions. Every day we make thousands of them, from the small stuff like “coffee or tea?” to the big stuff like career, finance, health and relationships. There’s a fantasy that some subs and slaves who are just starting out have, that they will meet a wise, intelligent and caring Dom who will make all…
Edging and Orgasm Control
Erotic sexual denial is a sexual practice in which a heightened state of sexual arousal is maintained for an extended length of time without orgasm. Commonly, most of us would probably call it “orgasm control”. For some, it’s a common part of a BDSM or sexual bondage scene. It can be short term or long term….
Your Kink is OK in DSM-5
The American Psychiatric Association depathologized sadism, masochism, cross-dressing and fetishes in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5) in 2013. The DSM-5 defines paraphilia as “any intense and persistent sexual interest other than sexual interest in genital stimulation or preparatory fondling.” A paraphilic disorder is a “paraphilia that is currently causing…