Illustrated Guide – Open Mouth Gags

We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. Open mouth gags were originally for medical purposes and many we use, such as Whitehead gags and Jennings gags, can be bought from…

When a slave Sets a Scene for Master

As a relationship matures, that initial thrill can fade. The Dominant/submissive dynamic is many things, and it’s not always eros in the driver’s seat. What tools are in that black box of BDSM that spark your magic as a kinky individual? All relationships have some form of maintenance, to keep the flame burning. Sometimes we…

Illustrated Guide – Deepthroat Training

We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. The pharyngeal reflex or gag reflex (also known as a laryngeal spasm) is a reflex contraction of the back of the throat,[1] evoked…

The 5 Minute Guide to the History and Development of BDSM

The emergence of BDSM subculture, in the form that we’re familiar with today, can be traced back to 1940s’ gay leather communities, which appeared in the United States after World War II. From the 1940s to 1970s, leather bars and bikers’ clubs began to appear in multiple cities in the US, most obviously in Los…

Illustrated Guide – Spanking

We’ve reblogged these illustrations from Arkham-Insanity at DeviantArt. She’s got a bunch of great spanking illustrations in her gallery worth checking out. Like everything in life, spanking is a personal thing that varies from one kinkster to another. Some people need an excuse for a spanking, some don’t. Some like a warmup and some want…

Butt-Plugging a Novice

by Hermes Solenzol Buttplugs are very effective ways to put somebody into submissive mind space. Being penetrated is always an intimate sensation, and the use of an object adds an element of humiliation. Targeting the anus increases the feeling of intimacy and vulnerability, because of the taboos associated with it. Moreover, anal sensations tend to…

A Top’s Guide to Being in the Bootblacking Chair

Top or bottom, we don’t always instinctively get it right first time, and we’ve all got incidents in our past that were “learning moments”. I’d like to tell you one of mine. I was at a fetish bar in Philadelphia some years ago when I had my first encounter with a bootblack. yangpup was with…

Illustrated Guide – Bruises

We’ve reblogged the above illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. The image below is by Arkham-Insanity who has a lovely gallery of spanking pics. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. In the BDSM community, some people like bruises…

BDSM Might Not Be Therapy, But It Can Help

Can BDSM be a form of therapy? Is it therapeutic? What do we actually mean when we use the words “therapy” and “therapeutic”? Therapy means different things to different people. For individuals dealing with mental illness, therapy can be akin to physiotherapy, except happening in the mind. We need to stretch the mind in a correct…