I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. Here’s the way any relationship might start. You meet someone, get to know them, fall in love and feel that…
Category: Relationships
BDSM Slavery Contracts, Fetish Questionnaires and Measurement Charts
If you caste your eyes below to the footer, you’ll see we’ve added some free downloadable documents you might find useful. Disclaimer – we take no responsibility for the contents (especially the consensual s/M contracts). We didn’t write any of these, they’re old documents of unknown origin. Most are in .doc format so you can…
Chastity – Spirituality, Devotion and Power Exchange
WHAT IS CHASTITY? It is simply a form of orgasm denial, with or without a chastity device, and with or without power exchange. Some may use a chastity device to enforce the process of orgasm denial, some may explore chastity simply by following orders to not touch the genitalia, or masturbate. As always, it’s a…
Quiz – What’s Your BDSM Role?
Are you a Master, Dom/me or Top? A slave, sub, bottom or pet? Here’s a quick 24 question quiz that gives you a percentage rating for roles. It’s just fun, but maybe it’ll get you questioning your self-image. UPDATE APRIL 2020: Links come and go, and this quiz was deleted on the host site. It…
Dominants – Worshipping the Feet of Clay
i was more than grateful to read The Imperfect Dominant’s Charter, written by _cleric_. It is difficult for a Dominant/Master to come down from His broad arm chair and sit on the floor, facing thousands of subs and say, you know what? I am actually just like you, I have flaws and I have my…
The Loneliness of the Long Distance Relationship submissive
i grew up in a small town and i started my BDSM journey through the Internet. i was a kid with a submissive nature that i didn’t know how to deal with, and the internet opened up a doorway for me to explore my sexuality as a slave/sub. After a few months of navigating through…
Focus, Forgetfulness and the ADHD/ADD submissive
The topic of ADHD is under much debate, To what extent is distraction a mental illness? To what extent is the advancement of technology making everyone’s brain constantly jumpy? It’s not likely to be resolved any time soon, and in the meantime psychiatrists are prescribing “focus drugs” to kids. i myself have constant doubt about…
Same But Different – SSC versus RACK in BDSM
THE BEAUTY OF RISK AWARE CONSENSUAL KINK AND THE SAFE EXPERIMENT OF SAFE, SANE AND CONSENSUAL Since 1983, SSC or Safe Sane Consensual has been the mantra of the BDSM community. On any online forum, the mere mention of any activity that involved suspending the safeword or roleplaying a non-consensual scene (rape and interrogation fantasies…
Doms – Why We Do The Things We Do
There is a romantic image of the Domly Dom, on his throne, with his scantily dressed and collared slave at his feet. At the snap of a finger, food and wine are brought forth, and if he grows bored the slave performs a slow and sensual disrobe and perhaps begins worshiping his Master’s feet with…
BDSM – Sexual Orientation or Just Good Clean Dirty Fun?
Jillian Keenan is a brilliant writer at Slate. Check out her work here. In an article We’re Kinky, Not Crazy, she opens by saying: The American Psychiatric Association has decided that people with kinky sexual interests (which—let’s just get this out of the way—includes me) don’t necessarily have mental disorders. That seems like good news,…