Assume the Position

Position training is pretty much exactly what it sounds like. A set of body positions that are taught, corrected and memorised. It fits with some people’s style and it’s a turn-on, for others it’s as interesting as washing the dishes. You’ll know if it’s for you or not. I’ve heard it talked about in terms…

BDSM Slavery Contracts, Fetish Questionnaires and Measurement Charts

If you caste your eyes below to the footer, you’ll see we’ve added some free downloadable documents you might find useful. Disclaimer – we take no responsibility for the contents (especially the consensual s/M contracts). We didn’t write any of these, they’re old documents of unknown origin. Most are in .doc format so you can…

Quiz – What’s Your BDSM Role?

Are you a Master, Dom/me or Top? A slave, sub, bottom or pet? Here’s a quick 24 question quiz that gives you a percentage rating for roles. It’s just fun, but maybe it’ll get you questioning your self-image. UPDATE APRIL 2020: Links come and go, and this quiz was deleted on the host site. It…

Dominants – Worshipping the Feet of Clay

i was more than grateful to read The Imperfect Dominant’s Charter, written by _cleric_. It is difficult for a Dominant/Master to come down from His broad arm chair and sit on the floor, facing thousands of subs and say, you know what? I am actually just like you, I have flaws and I have my…

Focus, Forgetfulness and the ADHD/ADD submissive

The topic of ADHD is under much debate, To what extent is distraction a mental illness? To what extent is the advancement of technology making everyone’s brain constantly jumpy? It’s not likely to be resolved any time soon, and in the meantime psychiatrists are prescribing “focus drugs” to kids. i myself have constant doubt about…

BDSM – Sexual Orientation or Just Good Clean Dirty Fun?

Jillian Keenan is a brilliant writer at Slate. Check out her work here. In an article We’re Kinky, Not Crazy, she opens by saying: The American Psychiatric Association has decided that people with kinky sexual interests (which—let’s just get this out of the way—includes me) don’t necessarily have mental disorders. That seems like good news,…