by Hermes Solenzol Among the many problems that can happen in a scene, panic attacks can be a serious one, especially if the Top doesn’t know how to handle them. They are more common than you may think. Last month, during a talk I gave at Threshold (the BDSM organization of Los Angeles), I asked…
Category: Panic
Anticipation, Anxiety and the Butterflies
We all experiences anxiety, stress and the butterflies start fluttering in our stomach at different times in our life. Because what we do is transgressive and sometimes edgy, there’s a chance that it does happen more frequently or with higher intensity in our BDSM exploration. It might be when we hook up with people we…
When the Dominant or Master has PTSD or Panic Attacks
This is part 3 of a 3 part article on PTSD and panic attacks. Part 1: 2 Ways to Deal with PTSD and Panic Attacks Part 2: When the submissive or slave has PTSD or Panic Attacks Dominant’s issues are very often swept under the carpet for various reasons. Firstly and generally, the BDSM community…
When the submissive or slave has PTSD or Panic Attacks
This is part 2 of a 2 part article on PTSD and panic attacks. Part 1: 2 Ways to Deal with PTSD and Panic Attacks Part 3: When the Dominant or Master has PTSD or Panic Attacks You might also like a previous article on this site, A Dom’s Guide to Panic Attacks and BDSM…
2 Ways to Deal with PTSD and Panic Attacks
This is part 1 of a 3 part article on PTSD and Panic Attacks. Part 2: When the submissive or slave has PTSD or Panic Attacks Part 3: When the Dominant or Master has PTSD or Panic Attacks We talked about the symptoms of PTSD in a previous article and Heather Daisy talks about how…
What To Do If Your Partner Gets Triggered
by Heather Daisy A trigger is an action, word, emotion, smell or other noun that causes a negative, often flashback-style feeling in a person. They are often the result of abuse, trauma, or highly negative emotionally-charged situation. Triggers can happen anywhere, and anytime, which is what makes them so terrifying. What you must remember about…
What Is Social Anxiety?
WHAT IS SOCIAL ANXIETY? Wikipedia defines it like this: Social anxiety is a discomfort or a fear when a person is in a social interaction that involves a concern of being judged or evaluated by others. It is typically characterised by an intense fear of what others are thinking about them (specifically fear of embarrassment,…
Healthy Alternatives to Self-Harm and Self-Injury
I picked these images up randomly from Tumblr, so I apologise for not crediting them properly. There are some great suggestions for alternatives to self-harm in them and I wanted to share. FURTHER READING • Cornell University – The Cornell Research Program on Self-Injury and Recovery • Self-Injury.net – FAQ • A Kind Dom –…
Panic Attacks, BPD, Depression – Are They Mental Disorders or Signs You Need To Deal With The Past?
Why is it that we tag a person with extreme pessimism as having mental illness (borderline personality disorder, depression etc) but extreme optimism is seen as healthy? There are very few instances where “being up” is examined at all, except perhaps where it is the “manic” part of manic depressive. An interesting alternative view comes…
A Dom’s Guide to Panic Attacks and BDSM (by a humble hungry sub)
WHAT IS PANIC ATTACK? The non-profit resource site HelpGuide.org offers this definition: “A panic attack is a sudden surge of overwhelming anxiety and fear. Your heart pounds and you can’t breathe. You may even feel like you’re dying or going crazy. Left untreated, panic attacks can lead to panic disorder and other problems. They may…