Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) and BDSM

“Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) is a severe condition in which two or more distinct identities, or personality states, are present in—and alternately take control of—an individual. The person also experiences memory loss that is too extensive to be explained by ordinary forgetfulness. “ “DID reflects a failure to integrate various aspects of identity, memory and…

When Your slave or submissive Has Borderline Personality Disorder

Unless you’re a psychiatrist by profession, the only way you’ll probably ever discover if your sub has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is if he tells you. It’s difficult to diagnose, even for professionals, and it’s often mixed with other mental health issues. If you’d like to read more about the diagnostic criteria, have a look…

Masochism – Can It Be Cured?

CAN MASOCHISM BE CURED? This question carries a subtle pre-conceived notion of masochism – that masochism is a sickness or disease of some sort that needs to be cured. It’s the type of question that is raised with any socially deviant act, along the lines of “can homosexuality be cured” (still being debated, even in…

The Difference Between Masochism and Self-Harm

THE MOTIVATION BEHIND MASOCHISM AND SELF-HARM We have briefly talked separately about masochism and self-harm, but where is the line drawn, and are they interchangeable? The core distinction between them is the intention, or motivation of the person looking for the pain. Masochists derive meaning from pain, be it sexual pleasure, spiritual satisfaction, physical thrill…

What Is Social Anxiety?

WHAT IS SOCIAL ANXIETY? Wikipedia defines it like this: Social anxiety is a discomfort or a fear when a person is in a social interaction that involves a concern of being judged or evaluated by others. It is typically characterised by an intense fear of what others are thinking about them (specifically fear of embarrassment,…

Healthy Alternatives to Self-Harm and Self-Injury

I picked these images up randomly from Tumblr, so I apologise for not crediting them properly. There are some great suggestions for alternatives to self-harm in them and I wanted to share. FURTHER READING • Cornell University – The Cornell Research Program on Self-Injury and Recovery • Self-Injury.net – FAQ • A Kind Dom –…

Focus, Forgetfulness and the ADHD/ADD submissive

The topic of ADHD is under much debate, To what extent is distraction a mental illness? To what extent is the advancement of technology making everyone’s brain constantly jumpy? It’s not likely to be resolved any time soon, and in the meantime psychiatrists are prescribing “focus drugs” to kids. i myself have constant doubt about…

A Dom’s Guide to Panic Attacks and BDSM (by a humble hungry sub)

WHAT IS PANIC ATTACK? The non-profit resource site HelpGuide.org offers this definition: “A panic attack is a sudden surge of overwhelming anxiety and fear. Your heart pounds and you can’t breathe. You may even feel like you’re dying or going crazy. Left untreated, panic attacks can lead to panic disorder and other problems. They may…

BPD – Is It A Disorder, And Is There A Cure?

MY OPINION ON THE LABELLING OF BPD AS A “DISORDER” Whether borderline personality disorder (BPD) originates from nature or nurture is constantly being debated. Personally, i disagree that BPD is a form of disorder. There is an underlying problem in judging a person who uses a very different lens to view the world as having…