By Association of Professional Piercers Use one or both of the following solutions for healing piercings: Packaged sterile saline solution with no additives (read the label), or a non-iodized sea salt mixture: Dissolve 1/4 teaspoon of non-iodized (iodine-free) sea salt into one cup (8 oz.) of warm distilled or bottled water. A stronger mixture is…
Category: Kinks
Observations on Fisting: A Personal Journey
by Andrew H. What connects fisting to BDSM? Very simply, it is a power exchange. What elevates it beyond other power exchanges is that a man physically places his life, his very being, in the hand of another man. And whether fisting is part of a larger BDSM scene, or an activity in and of…
Chastity for Abstinence and Chastity for Sexual Charge
A few clicks around Google or Reddit and you’ll probably notice that the idea of locking a male penis has radiated out into even vanilla circles. The intention behind, and reasons for, chastity can be rather diverse. Your reasons may not be another person’s reasons, but you are nearly certainly not alone in your own…
Sexy Chastity Games for boys and their Keyholders
Some time ago we published Chastity – Sexy Games for Solo Players, but we get a lot of enquiries from keyholders for games they can play too. So, the two of you have found the right chastity cage and you’ve got the erections and wanking under control. You might be wondering, what next? Perhaps it’s…
Hot Scenes with Candles
by Gil K. Are you getting hot flashes? Does your skin feel prickly and on fire? Then either you are having an allergic reaction or someone is dripping hot wax on you. Lets hope its the latter, and discuss some technique and safety. MATERIALS A variety of candles can be used. These include: COACH CANDLES:…
Illustrated Guide: Boy Scout Knots
The Boy Scouts have always been the go-to resource for knot tying, though I’m sure they have innocent purposes in mind. You might not get a Knot Merit Badge for learning these, but you will find that they will see you through pretty much any rope bondage situation you might come up against. There are…
Buzzcuts and Head Shaving and Why It’s So Hot
by Peter B. Forced haircuts—the idea of an unwilling guy being tied or held down, pleading and then begging not to have his precious hair taken from him. Then the sudden click-thud as the clippers are switched on, and their hum morphing to a low buzzz as they move to his head… Buzzcuts, brush cuts,…
Abrasion – Rubbing You the Right Way
by Rich W. While the world at large thinks of “abrasion” as a wearing or grinding away by friction or as an irritation, we who are SM-aware know that abrasion is an erotic stimulation of the skin by rubbing, scratching, or pricking. Abrasives are referred to in the Bible and are depicted in Egyptian drawings…
Illustrated Guide: Self Spanking
We’ve reblogged this illustration from Girlfriend and ExGirlfriend BDSM Gallery. They’ve got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. I won’t go into the “why” of self spanking. There are many reasons it might be for you, and Thomas Salas’ article in…
Using the Theory of Planned Behavior for BDSM Training That Lasts
Conversations about Behavior Modification in BDSM usually focus on B.F Skinner’s theory of Operant Conditioning, which centres on positive and negative reinforcement and punishment to influence and instill new behavior. Skinner’s approach is that there are really only two ways of changing someone’s behavior — the carrot and the stick. But, there is a range…