If you’re eyeing chastity devices, whether online or in stores, you’ll notice that they’re not cheap items. They don’t let you try them on in stores for hygiene purposes, and online you’re making judgements from images and words, so you’re faced with the dilemma of looking at devices and trying to imagine how they will…
Category: Kinks
BDSM Impact Play Safe Zones
Show me a BDSM toybox without some kind of impact toy and I’ll show you a Dom that is probably thinking of doing some online shopping. But, I’ve seen some pictures on Tumblr recently that I hope are faked, because the bodies are marked up in areas they really shouldn’t be marked up in. I…
Assume the Position
Position training is pretty much exactly what it sounds like. A set of body positions that are taught, corrected and memorised. It fits with some people’s style and it’s a turn-on, for others it’s as interesting as washing the dishes. You’ll know if it’s for you or not. I’ve heard it talked about in terms…
Chastity – Spirituality, Devotion and Power Exchange
WHAT IS CHASTITY? It is simply a form of orgasm denial, with or without a chastity device, and with or without power exchange. Some may use a chastity device to enforce the process of orgasm denial, some may explore chastity simply by following orders to not touch the genitalia, or masturbate. As always, it’s a…
Dominants – Worshipping the Feet of Clay
i was more than grateful to read The Imperfect Dominant’s Charter, written by _cleric_. It is difficult for a Dominant/Master to come down from His broad arm chair and sit on the floor, facing thousands of subs and say, you know what? I am actually just like you, I have flaws and I have my…
A Dom’s Guide to Panic Attacks and BDSM (by a humble hungry sub)
WHAT IS PANIC ATTACK? The non-profit resource site HelpGuide.org offers this definition: “A panic attack is a sudden surge of overwhelming anxiety and fear. Your heart pounds and you can’t breathe. You may even feel like you’re dying or going crazy. Left untreated, panic attacks can lead to panic disorder and other problems. They may…
Peter Pan Syndrome – Real or an Aspect of Ageplay?
In the age play community, quite a number of guys refer to themselves as having Peter Pan Syndrome (PPS). It’s common to see it on FetLife profiles, and it’s often used in the way of saying “age play is not fake to me, I really have this inside me”. The name, of course, refers to…
What is Self-Harm?
Most resources will tell you that people who self-harm are seeking emotional relief by self-inflicting pain. Through the presence of pain sensations on your physical level, nerves send signals to the brain and take the mental energy or mental focus away from the intense emotional disturbance from mental issues that one is dealing with. The…