Most guys who take chastity beyond a couple of hours, or a couple of days, are no longer doing it just for fun. It becomes a tool for devotion, power exchange and emotional connectivity. It is about letting go of your ego and letting someone you submit to take charge of your body. Like a…
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Self Bondage – Rope Handcuffs with Lock
In a previous self-bondage how-to, we showed a quick rope handbind for attaching to a harness. It was very simple and not very secure. We’ve got a new PDF in our free downloads with step-by-step instructions for more secure cuffs. So secure, in fact, that you won’t get out of them without a key. You…
Erotic Humiliation and Degradation
Technically speaking, erotic humiliation and erotic degradation are not quite the same thing, though they are often spoken about interchangably or lumped together as “humilation and degradation”. Humiliation is a mental state, and what humiliates one person may not humiliate another. For example, telling a man he has a small penis may be humiliating, if…
Self Bondage – Rope Hog Tie
We’ve created a PDF with step-by-step instructions for two different variations of a self bondage rope hog tie. It’s in our downloads in the sidebar, or download it here. Hog ties are more risky than our previous step-by-step rope harness tutorial, so please read Some Words Before You Start. It’s important. Believe me, you don’t…
Self Bondage – Quick Rope Hand Bind for Harness
We’ve created a PDF with a quick finishing touch to our self bondage Full Body Rope Harness to lock your wrists in place behind your back. It’s in our downloads in the sidebar, or download the step-by-step instructions here. You’ll need one rope, about 2 meters (6.5′) long. You’ll be able to get in and…
Self Bondage – Full Body Rope Harness
We’ve created a PDF with step-by-step instructions for a full body rope harness. It’s in our downloads in the sidebar, or download it here. You’ll need one rope, 8 or 9 meters (26′ to 30′) long. 6mm rope looks good on most people, but if you’re a bigger build, you might like the way 8mm…
The Secret Transgression of an Undercover Lover
Everyday life can get a bit mundane and humdrum. Stuff that used to give us challenge or put a spark in our day gets repeated over and over again, and becomes less interesting. It happens in relationships too. One technique to give you a tingle throughout the day is to add a secret. A layer…
Affordable Chastity Devices from China – Things You Need to Know
China has emerging industries for pretty much everything nowadays, and that includes BDSM toys and chastity devices. i have some personal experience with Chinese chastity cages (my current go-to steel cage comes from China). If you’ve never shopped on a Chinese website before, i wanted to share some experiences and handy hints. i’m basing this…
Self Bondage – Some Words Before You Start
We’re going to run a series of articles on self bondage in the coming weeks, and before we do, I thought it would be wise to say a few words about risk and safety. I know, it’s not the sexiest of subjects, but please read on. This stuff is important, and even if you think…
Clothespins – Simple and Effective BDSM Torture Toys
by Fledermaus (aka Tony DeBlase) Sometimes it is the simplest BDSM torture toys that can be the most effective. The Sandmutopia Supply Company “research and development lab” is filled with a great variety of equipment, including literally hundreds of different kinds of clamps. But high among my list of favorites are still plain old ordinary…