by Hermes Solenzol It is quite ironic that the person who loves you the best is also the person who is able to hurt you most deeply. Apparently, romantic relationships entail a great deal of suffering. Everybody seems to think that this is unavoidable, that suffering is just the price of admission for being loved….
Category: Emotional SM
90 Creative Ideas for Erotic Humiliation & Degradation
We get a lot of queries about humiliation & degradation, specifically about practical ideas for things to do. Not every activity is suitable for every person, but here’s 90 fun ones. I didn’t write these, they’ve been passed around on the internet for a while, and before we get into the fun bit I wanted…
Illustrated Guide – Body Writing Tools
We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. Although the 1996 Peter Greenaway film The Pillow Book was an erotic and poetic look at body writing, in BDSM it is usually…
Can Role-Play Add to the Pleasure That Pain Brings?
What’s in your sadomasochist (S/m) repertoire? If you think of role-play as “I’m the stern headmaster and you’re the naughty student” then some people enjoy that kind of play and some people don’t find much in it. In this context we’re talking about role-play as making up fictional characters or putting ourselves as real characters…
Erotic Humiliation and Degradation
Technically speaking, erotic humiliation and erotic degradation are not quite the same thing, though they are often spoken about interchangably or lumped together as “humilation and degradation”. Humiliation is a mental state, and what humiliates one person may not humiliate another. For example, telling a man he has a small penis may be humiliating, if…
Dominants – Worshipping the Feet of Clay
i was more than grateful to read The Imperfect Dominant’s Charter, written by _cleric_. It is difficult for a Dominant/Master to come down from His broad arm chair and sit on the floor, facing thousands of subs and say, you know what? I am actually just like you, I have flaws and I have my…
A Dom’s Guide to Panic Attacks and BDSM (by a humble hungry sub)
WHAT IS PANIC ATTACK? The non-profit resource site HelpGuide.org offers this definition: “A panic attack is a sudden surge of overwhelming anxiety and fear. Your heart pounds and you can’t breathe. You may even feel like you’re dying or going crazy. Left untreated, panic attacks can lead to panic disorder and other problems. They may…