by Jay Wiseman © 2018 Breathing takes work. More specifically, breathing takes muscular effort. In a healthy person inhalation takes muscular effort and exhalation is passive. Positional asphyxia occurs when a person’s body is put into a position where the amount of work they have to do to breathe adequately is greater than the amount…
Category: Bondage
Advice for Rope (and other play)
There is some very useful advice here for Tops and bottoms by Topologist from Crash Restraint. It’s rope-oriented, but much of the advice is applicable for all sorts of play. I’d encourage you to read all the sections, regardless of identification. TOPS When looking for new partners: DON’T touch anyone without their clearly expressed verbal…
Your Bondage Rope is Delicious, But You Don’t Want That
If you’ve spent much time tying up your partners, you’ve probably invested in some nice jute or hemp rope and you’ve probably dropped a reasonable amount of money on this. Depending on where you purchased your rope, it may have been stored in a low-humidity environment and then come to you vacuum sealed. The reason…
Why Do We Love Gags So Much in BDSM?
by Terry F. Why do we all like gags and plugs? They’re small and portable, and they bear psychologically significant meaning. We use gags and plugs for practical reasons such as shutting someone up (muffling unwanted screams or stopping the bottom from talking), forced feeding and sensory deprivation. These practical functions often relate to psychological…
Illustrated Guide: Pentagram Rope Harness
We have a free download PDF of a full body harness that’s popular on our site, but it doesn’t restrict mobility, so it’s more for decorative purposes or as the basis for additions such as a hog tie or hand bind. The Pentagram (or Star) Harness Bondage Tie not only looks sexy… it can (but…
How Real is a BDSM Lifestyle? As Real as You Want it to Be
by Joseph D. All sex is a power play. We like to deny it. We like to pretend that sex is birds and bunnies and bubbling brooks, that sex can’t be evil, nasty power dynamics, but that’s what makes it hot for people, whether they cop to it or not. Even the most vanilla sexual…
Illustrated Guides – Ponygirl Bit Gag
You can certainly get some nice versions of this from online fetish stores, but if you want to save some money or you just like to make things yourself, this is a project that doesn’t take much material or special skills. The ponygirl bit gag would look just as great on a ponyboy as it…
Illustrated Guide: Boy Scout Knots
The Boy Scouts have always been the go-to resource for knot tying, though I’m sure they have innocent purposes in mind. You might not get a Knot Merit Badge for learning these, but you will find that they will see you through pretty much any rope bondage situation you might come up against. There are…
Illustrated Guide: Two Column Ties
Shibari/Kinbaku/Rigger online groups can be a scary place to be when you’re starting out in rope bondage. Things get very complex, very fast, and you can add to that some Japanese terminology, disputes over the “best” way to do one tie or another and even opposing camps regarding what types of rope to use. If…
Illustrated Guide – French Bowline
If you’re a rescue worker or boy scout, this illustration may not be what you are expecting, so to get the confusion out of the way first, there are two different ties called a French Bowline. The French Bowline used in rescue work is a variation of the Simple Bowline, which forms two loops…