You don’t just switch power exchange (TPE) relationships on like a tap, you grow them. To do that, communication is key, and journals are one way to help that information flow. One of the most common reasons for subs to keep a journal is to give their Dom access to their thoughts and feelings, but…
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Long Distance Relationships – Helping your Dom When He Drops
We’ve talked about Domspace and subdrop in previous posts as mostly being about endorphin floods (and mental space) during a scene, and the effects of recovering from that when the scene ends. If you’re in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR), you may have experienced a different kind of drop. For the sake of this article…
Subspace versus Bottomspace
Subspace is actually a mashup of two shortened words: sub – short for submissive, which can be generally defined as “person who consensually gives up control either all the time or for a specified period” space – short for headspace, slang for mental state The Merriam-Webster Dictionary might offer a better definition of submissive as…
Age Play and littles – Exploring The Inner Child
WHAT IS A LITTLE? Most littles take the role of a submissive child in age play. There are switch littles and (rare) Dominant littles, but overwhelmingly it is a sub role. I will define age play as a scene or time (or entire relationship) in which one person (usually the submissive) acts and may dress…
10 Tips For Unattached Submissives
by sub cee Being an unattached submissive can be a very difficult thing to live with. First it takes a lot of deep internal searching to discover one’s submissive desires in the first place, a huge amount of courage to come to terms with it and it’s a massive heartache to not have anyone to…
When Your slave or submissive Has Borderline Personality Disorder
Unless you’re a psychiatrist by profession, the only way you’ll probably ever discover if your sub has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is if he tells you. It’s difficult to diagnose, even for professionals, and it’s often mixed with other mental health issues. If you’d like to read more about the diagnostic criteria, have a look…
3 Kinky Lists That Are More Fun Than New Year Resolutions
It’s time to close up another year and look forward to a spicy new one, so we thought we’d take a day off from serious issues today and muse on something fun we could all do to get our engines tuned up for the ride ahead. Everyone seems to write New Year resolutions lists at…
What Type of BDSM Top or Bottom Are You?
No matter how much some of us might protest that we “don’t want to be labeled or put in a box”, the roles we occupy in BDSM form an essential part of our negotiation. It is not simply about playing a part in a fantasy, though that can be an important element in the turn-on….
Answering Some Questions about Internal Enslavement
i identity as someone who desires Internal Enslavement. It’s not what my current relationship is, but it is something that i have dreamt about since young. Following up on my previous post explaining what Internal Enslavement is, I received some questions about it and so here are my personal responses. HOW DOES INTERNAL ENSLAVEMENT DIFFER…
What is Internal Enslavement?
Two terms that nearly always cause confusion in conversation are “mental BDSM” and “internal enslavement”. They sound like they might be similar concepts, but “mental BDSM” usually refers to psychological (rather than physical) control, while “internal enslavement” refers to what you’d imagine the dictionary definition of “slave” is. WHAT IS INTERNAL ENSLAVEMENT? Internal Enslavement is…