Most guys who take chastity beyond a couple of hours, or a couple of days, are no longer doing it just for fun. It becomes a tool for devotion, power exchange and emotional connectivity. It is about letting go of your ego and letting someone you submit to take charge of your body. Like a…
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Book Review: Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook by Michael Makai
Available as ebook on Smashwords or paperback on Amazon There is a best selling 2007 M/s book that spends an entire chapter talking about how the author likes his submissives to arrange his dinner parties. Thankfully, this is absolutely nothing like that book. From the get-go, Michael Makai examines the question of whether Dominance &…
The No Limits Slave
You’ll often hear people talking with derision about “no limits slaves”. How can they possibly exist? Everyone has limits. Yet, i believe they can and do exist. We read so many love stories where one character is willing to die for the other. It exists in fiction because it is part of our human psyche….
The Sacredness of BDSM
Sacred places are awe-inspiring; they are serene environments that encourage contemplation and meditation; and they create an attitude of respect Daniel Levi and Sara Kocher In BDSM, we experience sacred moments not between the individual and God, but between individuals. It’s nothing abstract or intangible. It’s the foot of your Master and the forehead of…
Erotic Humiliation and Degradation
Technically speaking, erotic humiliation and erotic degradation are not quite the same thing, though they are often spoken about interchangably or lumped together as “humilation and degradation”. Humiliation is a mental state, and what humiliates one person may not humiliate another. For example, telling a man he has a small penis may be humiliating, if…
The Sensual submissive in BDSM Relationships
The journey of being a sub or slave to a Master is more than just passive obedience. You’ll hear lots of advice, like “always be obedient” and “never say no”, but it takes something more to build the foundations of a 24/7 lifestyle relationship that will last. Like anything, BDSM relationships burn out. The thrill…
The Secret Transgression of an Undercover Lover
Everyday life can get a bit mundane and humdrum. Stuff that used to give us challenge or put a spark in our day gets repeated over and over again, and becomes less interesting. It happens in relationships too. One technique to give you a tingle throughout the day is to add a secret. A layer…
Free Will and BDSM
We have free will if we have the autonomous power to make decisions about our own direction in life and act on them. Whether we really have free will or not has been debated since the great philosophers, and is still debated now. ABOUT FREE WILL Social dynamics are complex, and we are the product…
Safewords Aren’t About Trust or Love
We’ve talked about SSC vs RACK and Consensual Non-Consent (CNC), but what is the actual function of a safeword in BDSM practices and how important is it that you have one? If we frame a discussion in the terms of SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual), the safeword gives the ultimate power in a scene to…
The Psychology of BDSM
by bruce On Saturday evening, after a workshop on the ‘Psychology of BDSM’ was over, I was walking home wondering to myself what really motivated me to pursue BDSM. While the evening started out well, and proved to be interesting by itself, I got the feeling that, by the end of the talk, few panelists…