BDSM has been officially mass-ified. Fifty Shades of Grey has spawned a bookshelf full of copies for under the sheets reading. You can probably find them in your local library. The BDSM community has been dragged into this commodification of the culture. What used to be whispered about is now discussed openly around the dining…
Category: Identities
Quiz – What’s Your BDSM Role?
Are you a Master, Dom/me or Top? A slave, sub, bottom or pet? Here’s a quick 24 question quiz that gives you a percentage rating for roles. It’s just fun, but maybe it’ll get you questioning your self-image. UPDATE APRIL 2020: Links come and go, and this quiz was deleted on the host site. It…
A Field Guide To “Creepy Dom”
by Asher Bauer Introduction This is a public service announcement for the BDSM and kink community. It is especially directed at anyone relatively new, and extra especially at anyone who ever bottoms. For the benefit of everyone’s mental health and safety, I would like to discuss the widespread phenomenon known as Creepy Dom. Creepy Dom…
Dominants – Worshipping the Feet of Clay
i was more than grateful to read The Imperfect Dominant’s Charter, written by _cleric_. It is difficult for a Dominant/Master to come down from His broad arm chair and sit on the floor, facing thousands of subs and say, you know what? I am actually just like you, I have flaws and I have my…
The Imperfect Dominants’ Charter
All types of media, from fashion to porn and everything in between, have filled our heads with what perfection looks like. It’s a “perceived perfection” but stifling none the less. Holding us back from trying new things for fear of looking foolish. Keeping us isolated for fear of being judged. Controlling far more of our…
The Loneliness of the Long Distance Relationship submissive
i grew up in a small town and i started my BDSM journey through the Internet. i was a kid with a submissive nature that i didn’t know how to deal with, and the internet opened up a doorway for me to explore my sexuality as a slave/sub. After a few months of navigating through…
The Periodic Table of Kink
Sorry kink explorers, but fluffy handcuffs are considered vanilla. If you have a thing for tentacles, figging, snowballing, rusty trombone, cupping or queening then you’re definitely considered kinky though, and this great periodic table will show you some associated kinks. My favourite bit is the common paraphilias section in white, but it’s all interesting and…
The Submissive Test: What Kind of Submissive Are You?
The problem with terms like “sub” or “slave” is that they’re broad umbrella terms. Perhaps you see your role (or would like your role) to be partly domestic helper, partly pet, partly pleasure toy. Or perhaps something else? What type of submissive are you? This test utilizes the 11 categories of submissive from “Domination &…
Doms – Why We Do The Things We Do
There is a romantic image of the Domly Dom, on his throne, with his scantily dressed and collared slave at his feet. At the snap of a finger, food and wine are brought forth, and if he grows bored the slave performs a slow and sensual disrobe and perhaps begins worshiping his Master’s feet with…
BDSM – Sexual Orientation or Just Good Clean Dirty Fun?
Jillian Keenan is a brilliant writer at Slate. Check out her work here. In an article We’re Kinky, Not Crazy, she opens by saying: The American Psychiatric Association has decided that people with kinky sexual interests (which—let’s just get this out of the way—includes me) don’t necessarily have mental disorders. That seems like good news,…