It’s time to close up another year and look forward to a spicy new one, so we thought we’d take a day off from serious issues today and muse on something fun we could all do to get our engines tuned up for the ride ahead. Everyone seems to write New Year resolutions lists at…
Category: Identities
Different Types of Masochism – One Size Does Not Fit All
There are many different types and levels of masochism, and so often you’ll hear a conversation in the BDSM community where the two people are struggling to communicate because they are using the word in two different ways. As a term, diverse people with diverse intentions fall into the grouping. If you do a quick…
Fearplay – How Scary Is The Edge?
Let me tell you about scared. Your heart is beating so hard I can feel it through your hands. There’s so much blood and oxygen pumping through your brain it’s like rocket fuel. Right now you can run faster and fight harder and jump higher than ever in your life, and you’re so alert it’s…
What Type of BDSM Top or Bottom Are You?
No matter how much some of us might protest that we “don’t want to be labeled or put in a box”, the roles we occupy in BDSM form an essential part of our negotiation. It is not simply about playing a part in a fantasy, though that can be an important element in the turn-on….
Answering Some Questions about Internal Enslavement
i identity as someone who desires Internal Enslavement. It’s not what my current relationship is, but it is something that i have dreamt about since young. Following up on my previous post explaining what Internal Enslavement is, I received some questions about it and so here are my personal responses. HOW DOES INTERNAL ENSLAVEMENT DIFFER…
What is Internal Enslavement?
Two terms that nearly always cause confusion in conversation are “mental BDSM” and “internal enslavement”. They sound like they might be similar concepts, but “mental BDSM” usually refers to psychological (rather than physical) control, while “internal enslavement” refers to what you’d imagine the dictionary definition of “slave” is. WHAT IS INTERNAL ENSLAVEMENT? Internal Enslavement is…
Quiz – Map Your Kinks
If you follow our blog you’ll notice we like quizzes. Life is stressful enough, with all those boots to lick clean and canes to shine, so forgive us if we want a little idle distraction in our lives. Isn’t that why the internet was invented? Do you know how kinky you really are? I mean…
An Online Dominant’s Illustrative Primer
I hope that this article will prove helpful to (possibly young and inexperienced) Dominants taking their first steps into exploring online domination. I will attempt to offer some guidance on basic chat etiquette and how, once you find some kind of online community, to talk to submissives, set up and interact with play scenes, and…
A Sadist’s Philosophy of Pain
Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Kahlil Gibran Pain is an intense physical sensation. It has evolved as a warning – the body’s way of telling you that you are in danger or something is wrong. That burns, this is broken, that is cut: you’d better do something about…
Assume the Position
Position training is pretty much exactly what it sounds like. A set of body positions that are taught, corrected and memorised. It fits with some people’s style and it’s a turn-on, for others it’s as interesting as washing the dishes. You’ll know if it’s for you or not. I’ve heard it talked about in terms…