By Fledermaus This is a continuation of the late Tony DeBlase’s article on Cock and Ball Torture posted here. URETHRAL INVASION Most heterosexual men consider the possibility of something inserted up their ass as the greatest invasion of personal privacy, possibly even more than the thought of a knife penetrating skin and muscle. But that…
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CBT – Cock and Ball Torture Part 1
By Fledermaus (aka Tony DeBlase) This is Part 1 of a two-part article on CBT by the late Tony DeBlase. Part 2 includes piercing, urethral invasion, electrotorture and scrotal inflation. You can find it HERE. “As a sadist, I can say without equivocation, there is nothing in the world I find more beautiful than the…
submissive versus slave in BDSM
In BDSM lingo, we often confuse different terminology due to a lack of resources. Thanks to Fifty Shades of Grey and all the fantasy we’re exposed to (whether that’s fiction, porn or pickup sites), terms like slave and submissive (or Dominant and Master) can be thrown around interchangeably. But sometimes words are supposed to have…
Topspace – Go with the Flow
I’ve written before in general terms about relaxing into Topspace (or Domspace) and how it feels. Although that was written from a personal point of view, there is a scientific explanation. A lot has been written about subspace. Topspace is discussed much less. That might be because subspace is more “observable” than topspace, or it…
Pleasure and Pain: An Ode to Spankings
by Madame Beatrice When I think of spankings, I think of two things: transference and release. A spanking isn’t simply the sum of swats on a submissive’s beautifully curved ass; it’s a transfer of energy from one mind’s body into the flesh of another mind and body. Each time contact is made between an open…
Zen and the Art of Leather Polishing
Chores – We’ve all got them, and yes, they can be repetitive and boring. But in Dominant/submissive or Master/slave relationships we can shift the focus to our power dynamic. A slave carries out daily chores for his Master. The action of doing laundry changes from a boring task to a submissive responsibility, and each time…
Chastity – Dealing with Intense Emotions and Difficult Communication
Most guys who take chastity beyond a couple of hours, or a couple of days, are no longer doing it just for fun. It becomes a tool for devotion, power exchange and emotional connectivity. It is about letting go of your ego and letting someone you submit to take charge of your body. Like a…
Book Review: Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook by Michael Makai
Available as ebook on Smashwords or paperback on Amazon There is a best selling 2007 M/s book that spends an entire chapter talking about how the author likes his submissives to arrange his dinner parties. Thankfully, this is absolutely nothing like that book. From the get-go, Michael Makai examines the question of whether Dominance &…
The No Limits Slave
You’ll often hear people talking with derision about “no limits slaves”. How can they possibly exist? Everyone has limits. Yet, i believe they can and do exist. We read so many love stories where one character is willing to die for the other. It exists in fiction because it is part of our human psyche….
Exploring BDSM with Mental Health Issues
The term “mental illness” is loaded with negative connotations, often debatable and very tricky to define. What is “mentally ill” and what is “having a different mentality that sits outside the norm”? i’ve used “mental health issues” in the title of this article, but it doesn’t have to be “issues” in a negative sense. Being…