The magical thrill of the Dominant/submissive commitment is what most kinksters strive for. Not only because of the erotic ambiance that it provides, but there is something visceral about it. When we think of D/s, it can make our heart buzz and give us goosebumps. What really goes on between the stern standing Dominant and…
Category: Identities
Quiz: Does Your Enneagram Personality Affect Who You Are In Your D/s Role?
Based on the work started in the 1960s and 70s by South American human potential psychiatrists Oscar Ichazo and Claudio Naranjo, the Enneagram of Personality (Enneagram) is a typology of nine interconnected personality types. It’s said to date back to knowledge from 4th century Alexandria. By being aware of what enneagram personality type we are,…
How To Use (And Not Use) Intermittent Reinforcement in Behaviour Modification
Go into any casino and you’ll see rows of people emptying their purse into slot machines, spurred on by random small wins. Or, if you’re not a gambler, think about the term “addicted to internet porn”. We scroll pages of images or click hundreds of videos, and most aren’t what we’re looking for, but every…
What Sexual Orientation Are You Really?
For a long time we all talked about sexual orientation in the terms defined in Alfred Kinsey’s 1948 book Sexual Behaviour in the Human Male. Kinsey used a scale of 0 to 6, from heterosexual to homosexual with 5 shades of grey. In recent years we’ve also started talking about sexual orientation in terms of…
Download a Free Editable Sissy Maid Contract
In the U.S., BDSM history is richly steeped in leather culture and the stories of returning WWII veterans and motorcycle clubs. Parts of the community, including Sissy Maids, get overlooked in these stories, yet they have a rich, and better documented, history in Europe. We’ve had quite a number of queries for a Sissy Maid…
Human Puppy Play & BDSM Training 1: Finding The Headspace
by Brian Dawson This is part 1 of a 4 part series on puppy play. Part 2: Types of Dogs and Puppies Part 3: Biology – Veterinary Tips for the Human Dog Part 4: Basic Training There are those of us in this wide world who, for one reason or another, identify with animals. For…
Illustrated Guide – Wax Melting Points
We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. wax play: The top drips hot wax on the bottom. (See “fire and ice“) Safety note: It is important what kind of candle…
When the Dominant or Master has PTSD or Panic Attacks
This is part 3 of a 3 part article on PTSD and panic attacks. Part 1: 2 Ways to Deal with PTSD and Panic Attacks Part 2: When the submissive or slave has PTSD or Panic Attacks Dominant’s issues are very often swept under the carpet for various reasons. Firstly and generally, the BDSM community…
Taking BDSM to a Spiritual Level with Tantra
The first thing that comes to most people’s mind when they hear the word “tantra” is sex. The mysterious spiritually-connected image of Tantric Sex is as legendary as it is aspirational. If you have any spiritual practices, particularly Hatha Yoga and some lines of Buddhism, you might not be thinking of the sex, you might…
When is the Right Time to be Tested for Sexually Transmitted Diseases?
If you’re sexually active, sexually transmitted diseased are a possibility. Your partner doesn’t have to be hiding anything from you, they can be transmitted even if he/she doesn’t know anything is wrong. Here’s advice from Luke Adams, a sexual health counselor: The window for gonorrhea to show up is 2-6 days. The window for chalmydia…