I have been involved in a semi-open polyamorous BDSM relationship with two rather mature men for a few years now. Our dynamic is a version of an oldguard leather household protocol, in which i am an owned slaveboy to a kind Master who is partnered with His pup. We live separately, and in the past…
Category: Masochism
Is it Sadomasochism, Abuse or Self Harm?
One of the stigmas the BDSM community faces is the public confusion over where our lines of consent fall and at what point things are healthy versus unhealthy. To some extent, even as kinksters we have a hard time defining these things through our own eager urges for sadomasochistic acts. When we ourselves have difficulties…
Quiz – Check Your Narcissistic Personality Inventory
Narcissism in personality trait is generally conceived of as excessive self love. In Greek mythology, Narcissus was a man who fell in love with his reflection in a pool of water. The NPI was developed by Raskin and Hall (1979) for the measurement of narcissism as a personality trait in social psychological research. It is…
Whips & Whipping 101, Part 10: A Word on Cuts for Whip Bottoms
By Jim the Whip Maker and Dick Carlson Part 1: Bulls, Snakes & Other Scary Critters Part 2: Swing & Target Practice Part 3: Long Whips Part 4: The First Crack Part 5: The First Shot – The Full Overhand Shot Part 6: The First Useful Shot – The Pick Up Part 7: The Real…
Pleasure Spankings and Erotic Pain
by Author Unknown Erotic pain is something that is very difficult to explain unless there is something inside of you that draws you toward it. Many subs crave it, it settles them down. I’m sure you know many endorphins are released in the body when it is “stressed” during a spanking or more intense activities…
Whips & Whipping 101, Part 9: For the Whip Bottom – Dealing with your Whip Top
By Jim the Whip Maker and Dick Carlson Part 1: Bulls, Snakes & Other Scary Critters Part 2: Swing & Target Practice Part 3: Long Whips Part 4: The First Crack Part 5: The First Shot – The Full Overhand Shot Part 6: The First Useful Shot – The Pick Up Part 7: The Real…
Whips & Whipping 101, Part 8: For the Whip Top – Dealing with your Whip Bottom
By Jim the Whip Maker and Dick Carlson Part 1: Bulls, Snakes & Other Scary Critters Part 2: Swing & Target Practice Part 3: Long Whips Part 4: The First Crack Part 5: The First Shot – The Full Overhand Shot Part 6: The First Useful Shot – The Pick Up Part 7: The Real…
Ask a Neuroscientist: Pain Physiology, Explained to a Bottom
by Hermes Solenzol Imagine that you are being spanked… Stop getting so excited! This is supposed to be a scientific explanation! As I was saying, imagine that you are being spanked, and you are feeling that familiar stinging, warm pain in your behind. In reality, you don’t feel the pain in your bottom. You feel…
Illustrated Guide – Wax Melting Points
We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. wax play: The top drips hot wax on the bottom. (See “fire and ice“) Safety note: It is important what kind of candle…
Illustrated Guide – Body Writing Tools
We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. Although the 1996 Peter Greenaway film The Pillow Book was an erotic and poetic look at body writing, in BDSM it is usually…