Unless you’re a psychiatrist by profession, the only way you’ll probably ever discover if your sub has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is if he tells you. It’s difficult to diagnose, even for professionals, and it’s often mixed with other mental health issues. If you’d like to read more about the diagnostic criteria, have a look…
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3 Kinky Lists That Are More Fun Than New Year Resolutions
It’s time to close up another year and look forward to a spicy new one, so we thought we’d take a day off from serious issues today and muse on something fun we could all do to get our engines tuned up for the ride ahead. Everyone seems to write New Year resolutions lists at…
Fearplay – How Scary Is The Edge?
Let me tell you about scared. Your heart is beating so hard I can feel it through your hands. There’s so much blood and oxygen pumping through your brain it’s like rocket fuel. Right now you can run faster and fight harder and jump higher than ever in your life, and you’re so alert it’s…
What Type of BDSM Top or Bottom Are You?
No matter how much some of us might protest that we “don’t want to be labeled or put in a box”, the roles we occupy in BDSM form an essential part of our negotiation. It is not simply about playing a part in a fantasy, though that can be an important element in the turn-on….
An Online Dominant’s Illustrative Primer
I hope that this article will prove helpful to (possibly young and inexperienced) Dominants taking their first steps into exploring online domination. I will attempt to offer some guidance on basic chat etiquette and how, once you find some kind of online community, to talk to submissives, set up and interact with play scenes, and…
Assume the Position
Position training is pretty much exactly what it sounds like. A set of body positions that are taught, corrected and memorised. It fits with some people’s style and it’s a turn-on, for others it’s as interesting as washing the dishes. You’ll know if it’s for you or not. I’ve heard it talked about in terms…
Quiz – What’s Your BDSM Role?
Are you a Master, Dom/me or Top? A slave, sub, bottom or pet? Here’s a quick 24 question quiz that gives you a percentage rating for roles. It’s just fun, but maybe it’ll get you questioning your self-image. UPDATE APRIL 2020: Links come and go, and this quiz was deleted on the host site. It…
A Field Guide To “Creepy Dom”
by Asher Bauer Introduction This is a public service announcement for the BDSM and kink community. It is especially directed at anyone relatively new, and extra especially at anyone who ever bottoms. For the benefit of everyone’s mental health and safety, I would like to discuss the widespread phenomenon known as Creepy Dom. Creepy Dom…
Dominants – Worshipping the Feet of Clay
i was more than grateful to read The Imperfect Dominant’s Charter, written by _cleric_. It is difficult for a Dominant/Master to come down from His broad arm chair and sit on the floor, facing thousands of subs and say, you know what? I am actually just like you, I have flaws and I have my…
The Imperfect Dominants’ Charter
All types of media, from fashion to porn and everything in between, have filled our heads with what perfection looks like. It’s a “perceived perfection” but stifling none the less. Holding us back from trying new things for fear of looking foolish. Keeping us isolated for fear of being judged. Controlling far more of our…