by Morgan There are many ways to “train” a slave—to enjoy man-to-man power and sexual relationships. The most publicised and most visible modus operandi is that of the all-powerful and all-knowing Master who is able to direct, dominate and control the entire world occupied by the slave, who in turn fantasises himself a piece of…
Category: Concepts
Survival Tips for Polyamorous D/s Relationships
From childhood, we learn that a normal family consists of one male and one female. With the recent welcome wave of gay marriage rights across the globe, hopefully the next generation will not see that gender mix norm. The couple fall in love and share a life, perhaps with a child or two. Often the…
Why Your Non-Verbal Communication Isn’t As Good As You Think It Is
My friend Ramesh is naturally gregarious and something of a clown. He went to his first munch a couple of years ago and tried to be on his best behaviour, introducing himself to others and joining the conversations in the smaller groups. When I asked him afterwards how it had gone, he said it was…
The Work of Ownership: When Fantasy Meets Reality
Come here. Kneel down. Do as you’re told. Three simple commands. At first glance, they seem almost too simple, too easy, and too basic to have any meaning. Where is the strict command? Where is the humiliation? Where is the slapping around, smashing his face into the carpet, and verbally abusing the piss out of…
Assent Matters
by SherynB Okay, there’s a 600lb gorilla in the room, and I’m done pretending it’s not there. What we do isn’t pretty or politically correct, and frankly, it’s dangerous if we can’t get (and stay) honest about the reality of it. So here it is as raw and real and un-PC as it is: There…
Holding a Cuckold Affirmation Ceremony
By cuck Steve Couples already actively enjoying a cuckold related “lifestyle” may decide to make it more formal and official amongst their friends with a Cuckold Affirmation. The event should be held as a celebration of the Wife’s sexual freedom and the husband’s submission and devotion to his Wife’s pleasure. It should not be used…
Safe Call Apps to Watch Your Back
If you’re meeting (or are responsible for someone else who is meeting) someone for the first time or playing somewhere new, then safe calls are a tool for helping to keep meetings safe. Since forever, we’ve done it by arranging a voice-to-voice call and a secret duress/distress code with a friend, for a certain time…
The Three Types of Commitment
In BDSM relationships, we often speak of commitment. What we usually mean by that is that we will do things, in a sustained manner, to benefit the relationship. It is often a commitment to a person (or “people” if you’re poly), but it could also be to a larger collective entity, such as a household…
I Wanna Push Your Limits
Should I put my red flag away now? You will hear “I wanna push your limits” from some Dom at some stage, so I think it’s worthwhile talking about what that really means. LET’S TALK ABOUT CONSENT Consent flows both ways and both parties have to retain both responsibility and consent. A bottom can’t say…
Illustrated Guide – Types of Collars
We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery, one of the great sites that Tumblr killed in its purge. This is the first in a series of illustrated guides. If you’d like to follow them, then later ones will be here. Collar: Any symbol used to represent that a submissive or slave is…