We like to break from the serious stuff for a quiz now and again, but it’s been a while since we posted one. Here’s one you might like, and the cool thing is that it gives you a URL to use in your profiles so that others can see your results. There are 8 pages…
Category: Lifestyle/Community
What is Informed Consent?
Consent is not as straightforward as it first seems. It’s not black and white. At it’s clearest and simplest level, it is communicated permission. It is a declaration of allowance within agreed boundaries. I love this YouTube video explanation of what consent is (and isn’t): YouTube: CampusClarity – What is Consent? But, consent it is…
BDSM and Transgression
The human mind is so complicated and yet beautiful. Good is never purely good, it is always mixed with a bit of a bad, and pleasure, identity and sexuality are not singular but wired in a million different directions. It’s part of what makes us human. For some people, the appeal BDSM sexuality and eroticism…
Consensual Non-Consent (CNC)
The two basic negotiation concepts used in the BDSM community are SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual) and RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink). An extension of these concepts is consensual non-consent. CONSENSUAL NON-CONSENSUALITY A mutual agreement that within defined limits, or subject to a safe word or other restrictions, and to common sense, consent to activities…
The Psychology of BDSM
by bruce On Saturday evening, after a workshop on the ‘Psychology of BDSM’ was over, I was walking home wondering to myself what really motivated me to pursue BDSM. While the evening started out well, and proved to be interesting by itself, I got the feeling that, by the end of the talk, few panelists…
Submissive Journals as a Tool for Developing BDSM Relationships
You don’t just switch power exchange (TPE) relationships on like a tap, you grow them. To do that, communication is key, and journals are one way to help that information flow. One of the most common reasons for subs to keep a journal is to give their Dom access to their thoughts and feelings, but…
Ageing Bottoms and the Gay BDSM Community
by Bob Buckley It is (or can be) very nice to have friends. But, sometimes, they do make simple suggestions. This paper came about from the simple suggestion of Daddy Bob (Los Angeles) that I write about the ageing bottom, and from the equally simple suggestion of Doc (Dallas) that I write about the ageing…
Hot Times 24/7 – Our Fairytale BDSM Lifestyle
i identify as a slaveboy which, as you know, means I have no identity, live in a cage, eat pain like chocolates and spend my time either having sex or waiting lasciviously on my Master summoning me to use (hopefully for sex). Obviously we have hot sex pretty much every minute of every day. It’s…
Behavior Modification Using Reinforcement and Punishment
Some degree of behaviour modification is part of nearly every Dominant/submissive or Master/slave relationship. The sub pleases the Dom by bending to some degree to their will. Unless there’s an absolutely perfect fit at the beginning of the relationship, there will be some degree of what we’d affectionately call “training”. There are really only two…
Answering Some Questions about Internal Enslavement
i identity as someone who desires Internal Enslavement. It’s not what my current relationship is, but it is something that i have dreamt about since young. Following up on my previous post explaining what Internal Enslavement is, I received some questions about it and so here are my personal responses. HOW DOES INTERNAL ENSLAVEMENT DIFFER…