by MutualRespect Voltaire was a talented French writer, playwright, philosopher and historian from the 17th century. He was an outspoken critic of the French aristocracy, religious dogma and corrupt institutions. He was banished from France after a fall out with a minor aristocrat and was exiled to the United Kingdom for three years during the…
Category: Lifestyle/Community
The Consent in SSC and RACK means DBADA
Consent seems to be a trending topic in the BDSM community at the moment. Perhaps it was the film version of Fifty Shades of Grey, which inserts negotiations over a formal written contract that are not in the book, or perhaps it’s some of the trainwreck consent cases that have been in the spotlight recently….
Book Review: Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook by Michael Makai
Available as ebook on Smashwords or paperback on Amazon There is a best selling 2007 M/s book that spends an entire chapter talking about how the author likes his submissives to arrange his dinner parties. Thankfully, this is absolutely nothing like that book. From the get-go, Michael Makai examines the question of whether Dominance &…
Dungeon Monitor Kits – The DM’s Tool Bag
by DR Webster The DM Kit is a Dungeon Monitor’s tool bag. It’s a basic first aid and rescue kit. Even if a venue or organizer provides first aid supplies and other equipment, having the things you need with you means you don’t have to find the supplies you need before you deal with whatever…
Exploring BDSM with Mental Health Issues
The term “mental illness” is loaded with negative connotations, often debatable and very tricky to define. What is “mentally ill” and what is “having a different mentality that sits outside the norm”? i’ve used “mental health issues” in the title of this article, but it doesn’t have to be “issues” in a negative sense. Being…
The Sacredness of BDSM
Sacred places are awe-inspiring; they are serene environments that encourage contemplation and meditation; and they create an attitude of respect Daniel Levi and Sara Kocher In BDSM, we experience sacred moments not between the individual and God, but between individuals. It’s nothing abstract or intangible. It’s the foot of your Master and the forehead of…
No Sex Please, Just The Kink
If you’re on online cruising and dating sites, like Collarspace, Tinder and Recon, you’d be forgiven for thinking that BDSM is just the kinky spice that’s sprinkled on top of sex. Whether you’re Top or bottom, if you stray from the prescribed script about being a nympho/stud with a “do anything” attitude, you can find…
BDSM and the Pursuit of Happiness
Even though a recent Guardian article, Never tried BDSM? Go on, it’s good for you, points to studies that suggest that those of us expressing ourselves sexually may be happier than the average, there are a lot of people who are “under happy”. I’m using the term “under happy”, rather than “unhappy”, because I think…
Leather Behaviour
By George Whiting “The term ‘Leather’ embraces a whole lot of fetishes, fantasies and lifestyles; leather, rubber, boots, uniforms, BDSM etc. As we talk about leather, we remember that it is an inclusive term and that, in its diversity, there is a common thread. Simply explained, that common factor lies in the realization of personal…
Quiz – What is Your Safeword?
Traffic lights are so pedestrian. your safeword can be just as individual as you are, and we have just the random generator for you. Try this fun picture match to see what your safeword could be. Take the quiz – What Should Your Safeword Be? OTHER FUN BDSM QUIZZES • Understand the Psychology of Your…