A Dom’s Guide to Panic Attacks and BDSM (by a humble hungry sub)

WHAT IS PANIC ATTACK? The non-profit resource site HelpGuide.org offers this definition: “A panic attack is a sudden surge of overwhelming anxiety and fear. Your heart pounds and you can’t breathe. You may even feel like you’re dying or going crazy. Left untreated, panic attacks can lead to panic disorder and other problems. They may…

BDSM – Sexual Orientation or Just Good Clean Dirty Fun?

Jillian Keenan is a brilliant writer at Slate. Check out her work here. In an article We’re Kinky, Not Crazy, she opens by saying: The American Psychiatric Association has decided that people with kinky sexual interests (which—let’s just get this out of the way—includes me) don’t necessarily have mental disorders. That seems like good news,…

BPD – Is It A Disorder, And Is There A Cure?

MY OPINION ON THE LABELLING OF BPD AS A “DISORDER” Whether borderline personality disorder (BPD) originates from nature or nurture is constantly being debated. Personally, i disagree that BPD is a form of disorder. There is an underlying problem in judging a person who uses a very different lens to view the world as having…

What Puts The “Complex” in Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD)?

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN C-PTSD AND PTSD? Rather than try to explain this myself, i want to share this from the Out of the Fog website, which i think explains it well: Although similar, Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) differs slightly from the more commonly understood and diagnosed condition Post Traumatic Stress Disorder…

Where Is The Signboard That Leads Out Of Depression?

Walking out from the dark cloud wasn’t easy and never will be easy. There is no significant signboard showing your way out, and there are useless signboards everywhere, showing you the direction to another dark cloud. Where is the signboard? The one that doesn’t cheat you and truly shows you the way out to the…

BDSM Aftercare and Borderline Personality Disorder

We talk about the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) in this post. One core aspect of BPD is the fear of abandonment. There is a reason why NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness puts it on the top of the list, and it’s certainly been the biggest battle for me, personally. BDSM is…

What is Self-Harm?

Most resources will tell you that people who self-harm are seeking emotional relief by self-inflicting pain. Through the presence of pain sensations on your physical level, nerves send signals to the brain and take the mental energy or mental focus away from the intense emotional disturbance from mental issues that one is dealing with. The…

What is BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)? An Introduction.

Master Marc asked me a few days ago how i knew something i was feeling was Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and not Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). i described it this way. When a trigger event happens, with PTSD you suddenly find yourself dealing with something that has happened to you in the past. But…