by Tom Gordon
In an authentic medical setting, the doctor takes control; he makes you strip yourself of clothing, then proceeds to examine your most intimate parts, often leaving you with little dignity, no secrets, and no control. You surrender yourself to his instruments and treatments – yielding to his authority and will, giving in to the sensations of his probing. That loss of control, surrender, and very intimate contact has a lot in common with other kinds of scenes.
So what are some of the possibilities for medical kink as a part of a BDSM scene? I want to offer the standard caution – strongly emphasized – that some of the things which follow require expertise and training!
EXAMINATION: most bottoms feel very insecure when they are being examined closely; their inhibitions are ignored, but the fears about cock size and shape, inappropriate erection (or the lack of it), circumcision, ball size and structure are not ignored. The probing and gentle stretching of the rectum by latex covered fingers intrudes into the most secret places.
SHAVING: it might be necessary to shave the cock and balls and asscrack, or even the pubic area. Preliminary washing with warm water and then the gentle application of menthol shaving cream makes this a sensuous experience. Aside from the removal of the furry evidence of masculinity and creating the “little boy look,” shaving increases the sensitivity of denuded areas, and begins to re-shape self-image. It’s a good preliminary to…
PROSTATE MASSAGE: rectal massage of the prostate gland is a pleasurable and sensuous experience. It usually causes an erection, followed by leakage of precum fluid; if continued long enough, it can cause orgasm. It can be continued just long enough to cause the bottom anxiety about whether he is about to piss or cum. Maybe such anxiety prepares him for…
THE ENEMA: you may not have used a Bardex nozzle before; it is basically a balloon with a tube going through the center. The entire tube is inserted, the balloon is inflated with a squeezebulb (like a blood pressure cuff), and then the water is allowed to flow through the center tube. Because of the inflated balloon making a seal inside, the bottom cannot release the water until the top deflates the balloon (which has been pressing on the prostate). How much can he hold, and how long can he hold it? He can be filled and emptied repeatedly, whether he wants it or not, without removing the tube. He’ll have no choice: he has no control. He begins to absorb some of the water and needs to piss. It is time for…
THE CATHETER: with plenty of lubrication, the slender catheter is slowly inserted up the penis; he’s sure it will hurt and he’s not at all sure he can endure it. The catheter reaches the bladder and the tiny balloon at the tip is inflated to keep it in place. The tube is clamped off, and the bottom has no control of his ability to piss: if the clamp is closed, he cannot go, no matter how much he needs relief. If the tub is left open, he will gush, and then dribble constantly without control. In either case, he will feel as though he IS pissing as long as the cath is in place. If he refuses the catheter or struggles, it might be necessary for…
THE SOUNDS: sounds are medical instruments used to slowly and gently enlarge the opening of the penis and the urethra (the tube leading from the bladder to the tip of the penis). Basically, they are highly polished stainless steel rods with rounded tips, and they slip right into the penis. They come in sizes which are very close to each other; the top begins with a size which will obviously fit, and the next…until the bottom cannot go any farther. There is a strange psychological feeling when a man sees the steel dropping into his penis, feels it enlarging him, feels the stimulation of his prostate and his bladder. If he needs to experience some pain, maybe it is time for…
THE NEEDLES: new, sterile hypodermic needles are inserted into sensitive places; you know where those places are. In our “BDSM Clinic,” this is not the quick jab of the doctor’s office, the needle is inserted slowly and deliberately, so the bottom feels every millimeter. He learns to know the gauge of the needle by the feel; he steels himself for the gradual escalation of intensity and the invasion of more sensitive places. With perhaps a dozen or more needles in sensitive genital places and the bottom beginning to relax after a bit of pain, it’s probably time for…
THE ELECTRICITY: we must make difficult decisions. Perhaps the bottom would like to help decide where the first electrode will be placed – will it be clipped to a sound? And then the other electrode is touched randomly to the still inserted needles to provide little zaps of…pleasure, from time to time, unannounced. If this is a long scene and the bottom is restrained, maybe he’ll get hungry or thirsty; he probably needs…
THE NASO-GASTRIC TUBE: a slender tube is inserted into one well-lubricated nostril; it snakes its way to the stomach (if you have the technique right and haven’t inadvertently inserted it into a lung!). The bottom can be given liquid nourishment or water – whether he wants it or not. If he’s good he might get…
GENITAL STIMULATION: a massage vibrator periodically caresses the penis and scrotum. The degree of erection is noted. Any struggling against the restraints is observed, and the stimulation is stopped. Is the penis pulsing? There will be no orgasm until the top decides it is time; the bottom has no control. Even those things which the bottom never thinks of can be brought under control. For example…
BREATH CONTROL: with the aid of a mask equipped with a valve, the bottom can be taught to breathe rhythmically (or no air is available outside the rhythm established by the top – within that rhythm there is adequate air). Does the rhythm vary? Is it synchronized with music or with tiny electric shocks? Is the rhythm reinforced by instants of genital stimulation?
What combination of these invasions and stimulations will produce the sense of freedom and relaxation and release that leads to understanding that the top is truly caring and taking responsibility for all functions of the bottom? What combination will lead to the sense of true connection between willing bottom and competent, caring top, and then to magnificent orgasm and joy?
Some men would rather endure a flogging than the medical kink I have described above. But it’s my experience that there are also very many men who yearn to experience some of the things, to give up control. Others want to learn the skill of delivering these treatments and stimulations. Which are you?
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
This article first appeared in S/M Perspectives (Vol 1, Issue 2), independently published in Vancouver by Rainfall Press.