It’s time to close up another year and look forward to a spicy new one, so we thought we’d take a day off from serious issues today and muse on something fun we could all do to get our engines tuned up for the ride ahead.
Everyone seems to write New Year resolutions lists at this time of the year, so here’s something a bit more interesting than resolutions.
FOR THE SUBS
It has been another year of exploring, but what new things did you discover about yourself last year? Why not grab one of our free BDSM checklists and rate your fetishes, so next year you can print out another sheet and see how your kinks have changed and developed over time. New limits being set up or broken down? Thresholds going up or down? Are you ready to shift from being a sub to a slave? Looking forward to trying a new fetish? What is the next goal that you want to achieve? If you want to keep going with the reflection, download the Owner’s Manual and keep going deeper.
FOR THE SLAVES
Another year in the BDSM lifestyle, and often slaves are constantly reflecting on our behaviours anyway (it seems to be part of the job description). So my little suggestion is to take a break for today. How about thinking of some cute, kinky, interesting costumes to surprise your Master in the coming year. You could break it down into different seasons, give it different themes. Pull out your little slave’s secret book (be careful!) and let your imagination run free. A bondage Mickey Mouse? Or a winter furry fox? A summer Hawaii schoolboy or a Japanese ninja? Just remember that if you think you should seek permission from your Master before you try them out, then you probably should. If you are under a serious Leather Household, then this might not work for you of course, so perhaps think of something else that fits into Your BDSM lifestyle, and divide it into 4 seasons. What can you do to please and surprise your Master?
FOR THE DOMS
As a Dom not only do you have to be constantly on your toes and aware of tests and safety limitations, you also have to be inventive with your rewards, tasks, punishments and orders. Oh, and let’s not forget that one persons reward is another’s nightmare…
Take a piece of paper and write “IDEAS” on it. Write down as many ideas for tasks, punishments, rewards etc that you can in 10 minutes.
Here’s 5: Forced oral sex, polish a pair of shoes with his tongue, forced chastity, caning, human ashtray.
Now then, take that piece of paper and a pen and sit back in your chair.
Look around your room or wander around the house and choose a random object. Write down a way in which you can use that object within the context of a BDSM scene.
For example, you come across a plate with some leftover food on it. The scraps could be poured onto the floor and the sub made to eat them directly from the floor. A pen could used to write “property of …….” somewhere visible on his body. A camera or phone could become a tool for threatening to send embarrassing pictures if he doesn’t perform a task. Kitchen knife, coat hanger, pillowcase, bar of soap, bucket… pretty much every item in your house could have a kinky purpose with a little imagination.
As you do it more, your imagination will stretch further. Suddenly the stapler on your desk starts to look interesting for fearplay (using an empty stapler, or one that you know has only 3 in it which you then punch out 3 times in front of their face before punching it again on the submissive).